Rider Rewrite

A 3-month high-level space for riders and horse people who want to stop second-guessing themselves and become the human their horse can trust.

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Month 1 : Read

“I can’t change what I'm not aware of.”

Main skill: Self-awareness & pattern recognition
(with gentle regulation support, not bypassing)

This month is about learning to read the moment accurately before trying to fix or force anything.

Most riders skip this step entirely and jump straight to “do more / be better / push through”.

Here, we train perception.

You learn to READ:

  • Your stress responses (fight / flight / freeze / fawn) as they show up specifically around horses

  • Your bodily signals: breath, jaw, posture, grip, speed, voice

  • The thoughts running in the background (“I’m failing”, “They’re watching”, “I should know this”)

  • The social context: being observed, judged, advised, interrupted

  • The horse/human feedback loop: how your internal state changes the horse before you do anything concrete

This month looks like:

  • Catching yourself before you override your body,

  • Realising why you keep asking everyone on the yard for advice,

  • Seeing the exact moment self-doubt hijacks your decision-making,

  • Understanding that your brain isn’t broken, it thinks it's protecting you

You’re not asked to change everything yet.

You’re asked to start by seeing things clearly.

This month is about orientation and setting up. You stop fighting shadows and start seeing the actual terrain.

Month 2 : Regulate

“I can stay with myself under pressure.”

Main skill: Nervous system regulation & capacity building
(now that you can read what’s happening)

Once you can read your patterns, you'll learn how to downshift without collapsing and hold pressure without bracing.

This is where riders usually say:

“I finally understand what ‘calm’ actually means in my body.”

You learn to REGULATE:

  • In real time: before mounting, during tension, after mistakes

  • Without dissociating, numbing or forcing yourself through

  • Without "fake calm" that allows a tense ride but no real relaxation from your horse

  • With tools that actually work on the yard and in the saddle, not just on a yoga mat

We work with moments like:

  • You feel dread while tacking up → instead of overriding, you regulate and then choose your state

  • Your horse tenses → you regulate first and watch the horse respond and come back to baseline fast

  • Someone watches or comments → you stay in your body instead of shrinking or snapping and feel your horse stay loose beneath you

  • You notice activation in your body and don’t spiral into guilt or avoidance

Regulation here is not about being “zen”.

It’s about your capacity:

  • to feel

  • to stay present

  • to remain conscious instead of reactive.

This month is about stability. You become a safer place to stand for yourself and your horse.

Month 3 : Rewrite

“I lead myself differently now.”

Main skill: Identity, boundaries & choice
(built on awareness + regulation)

Only now do we consciously rewrite the pattern.

Affirmations aren't the vibe here. We use actionable identity choices that land in the body.

You learn to REWRITE:

  • The story you tell yourself in moments of pressure:

    • “I’m not a real rider.”

    • “I should be further along.”

    • “Other people know better than me.”

  • Your default responses:

    • appeasing to standing your ground

    • freezing to responding

    • over-controlling to trusting yourself and your horse

  • Your boundaries:

    • with coaches

    • with yard culture

    • with your own perfectionism

This month focuses on:

  • Making decisions without seeking external validation

  • Setting clean, neutral boundaries without over-explaining

  • Choosing how you ride, not just whether you ride

  • Designing systems (routines, limits, support) that protect this new way of being

This is where riders stop swinging between:

  • forcing themselves → burning out

  • avoiding → feeling ashamed

And start moving with consistency and self-respect. This month is about integration.


The loop becomes automatic. This is your new normal.

The thing that no one says in the horse world is this... 

It’s not your riding that’s the problem. It’s the pressure you’re carrying into the saddle.

It’s 5:30 PM.

You’ve rushed from work to the yard, battling traffic and your mind still running through emails, conversations, unfinished tasks. You pull into the parking lot, exhausted, and sit there for a minute with the engine off, scrolling your phone because you can’t quite bring yourself to get out.

You tell yourself you should ride, but your body and mind weighs a tonne.

You unlock the tack room, the smell of leather and dust hitting your nose,  and suddenly you’re faced with the same three options you’ve grown to hate:

  • Force yourself to tack up even though you feel disconnected.

  • Ride on autopilot, going through the motions.

  • Or skip it again, go home guilty, and promise yourself you’ll “do better next time”.

Your horse stands at the gate, ears flicking.

They don’t know why you’re tired. They just feel that you’re not fully there.

If this is familiar, you’re not broken.

You’re a thoughtful, capable, empathetic rider whose nervous system is overloaded and it’s leaking into the partnership.

If this is you…

The rider who no longer trusts her own decisions

You ask one person for advice. Then another. Then another. You cycle through multiple trainers.

Feeding. Rugs. Turnout. Training choices. Whether to ride today or not.

By the end, you’re more confused than when you started, brain fried, and quietly ashamed that you don’t “just know”.

You used to trust yourself. Now every decision feels risky.

So you look for external validation, override your instincts, and still go home wondering if you did the wrong thing.

The rider who used to be brave… and now quietly avoids certain things

You scroll old videos of yourself jumping, hacking, competing and barely recognise that version of you.

Now:

  • You plan to canter, jump, hack out… but “never quite get round to it”.

  • You stay in your comfort zone because it feels safer than anything that pushes your energy levels.

  • You agree to lessons, but secretly hope they get cancelled because being watched makes your chest tighten.

You joke that you’ve “gone soft”.

It doesn’t feel funny.

The rider who loves her horse… and resents the yard time

You adore your horse, and yet:

  • You procrastinate before going to the yard.

  • You stand in the stable aisle, scrolling, unable to decide what to do.

  • You do the basics - hay, feet, rugs - and leave, telling yourself “they don’t care if I ride anyway”.

You’re not lazy. You’re depleted.

The rider whose horse mirrors all their stress

You arrive tense. Within minutes:

  • Your horse is bargy, sticky, sharp or shut down.

  • They react in ways that make no sense on paper.

  • You leave thinking, “Why is he like this?” and quietly knowing, “Because I am like this.”

You’ve changed feed, tack, routines.

But the one variable that hasn’t really shifted is the state you bring into their space.

The rider who is burnt out from holding everything together

You are competent everywhere.

Work. Family. Logistics. Emotional labour.

By the time you reach your horse, there is nothing left to give.

You sometimes fantasise about selling just to give yourself some breathing room and feel sick with guilt immediately after because you love your 600kg beast. 

You don’t want to quit.

You want a way to stay that doesn’t cost you your health.

If even one of these resonates, Rider Rewrite was built for you.

What this space IS and is NOT : 

❌ Rider Rewrite is not horse training or refining ridden technique. We don’t school movements, analyse tack, or prescribe exercises.

✅ This is a high-level space for the human side of the partnership : the part that quietly determines everything else and that no one talks about.

It works across five core pillars, drawn directly from what riders bring into the space again and again:

1️⃣ Nervous system mastery

Learning to regulate under pressure - in the arena, at the yard, and in life - instead of riding from stress, dread or adrenaline.

2️⃣ Identity & self-trust

Untangling your worth from performance and approval so you stop outsourcing decisions, start trusting your own judgment again and listening to your horse above all else. 

3️⃣ Boundaries & social pressure

Handling yard dynamics, unsolicited advice, being watched, being judged without collapsing, people pleasing or exploding later.

4️⃣ The horse/human relationship

Developing attunement, consent and leadership without forcing so your connection stays when things feel hard.

5️⃣ Emotional leadership

Learning how to work with fear, shame, anger and overwhelm so they become information instead of obstacles.

This is psychology, nervous system regulation and leadership, applied precisely to the realities of the horse world.

 

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The Format : 

  • Live calls: 2 × 90-minute group calls per month (6 total)

  • Group size: max 8 riders

  • Format: live on Zoom + replays

  • Between calls: private group space for integration, questions and reflection

This is a small, contained group by design. Depth matters more than numbers.

By the end of the 3 months, riders:

  • Trust their own decisions again instead of asking everyone on the yard

  • Recover faster after fear, mistakes or criticism

  • Feel calmer, clearer and more present with their horse

  • Enjoy riding more often without forcing

  • Stop seeing themselves as “the problem” and start leading themselves with clarity

Same horse. Same life.
Entirely different nervous system. Deepened relationship.

If you’re thinking…

  • “My problems aren’t serious enough.”

  • “I should be able to handle this alone.”

  • “Other riders have it worse.”

Then this is for you.

You don’t need to justify your struggle, it is valid.

But it is your choice to say STOP to second-guessing yourself and YES to becoming the kind of human your horse feels safe with.

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Pricing Options

EXTENDED

165€

PER MONTH FOR 6 MONTHS

 

  • 3-month Rider Rewrite Mastermind

  • 6 live group calls (2 × 90-minute calls per month)

  • Small, curated group (max 8 riders)

  • Live coaching + hot seats during calls

  • Replay access to all calls

  • Private group space for reflection, questions & integration between calls

  • Structured monthly focus (Read → Regulate → Rewrite)

  • Clear tools for nervous system regulation, identity work & boundaries

  • Guidance grounded in psychology, nervous system science & horse–human relationship

  • Confidential, respectful container (not a public forum or advice free-for-all)

 

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STANDARD

300€

PER MONTH FOR 3 MONTHS

 

  • 3-month Rider Rewrite Mastermind

  • 6 live group calls (2 × 90-minute calls per month)

  • Small, curated group (max 8 riders)

  • Live coaching + hot seats during calls

  • Replay access to all calls

  • Private group space for reflection, questions & integration between calls

  • Structured monthly focus (Read → Regulate → Rewrite)

  • Clear tools for nervous system regulation, identity work & boundaries

  • Guidance grounded in psychology, nervous system science & horse–human relationship

  • Confidential, respectful container (not a public forum or advice free-for-all)

 

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GRADUAL

225€

PER MONTH FOR 4 MONTHS

 

  • 3-month Rider Rewrite Mastermind

  • 6 live group calls (2 × 90-minute calls per month)

  • Small, curated group (max 8 riders)

  • Live coaching + hot seats during calls

  • Replay access to all calls

  • Private group space for reflection, questions & integration between calls

  • Structured monthly focus (Read → Regulate → Rewrite)

  • Clear tools for nervous system regulation, identity work & boundaries

  • Guidance grounded in psychology, nervous system science & horse–human relationship

  • Confidential, respectful container (not a public forum or advice free-for-all)

 

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